Identify

It's always interesting to see how people will respond to hair. Even more of a spectacle if you've got a unique "situation." Talking with women quite frequently about their experience "coming into their own" has been an eye opener. To acknowledge that for so long women have been trying to fit an image of what is acceptable and identifiable is a deflating blow. Years and emotions invested into the idea someone created that to be beautiful your hair must be silky straight, to be professional perhaps a sleek bun. What about women who are above average intellectuals who can run a company, her life, and household without a flinch. The woman who dares to wear her hair loud with an afro so demanding you can't help your curiosity? Yet she knows the foundation to success. I challenge women to discover themselves.  I want little girls and young ladies to have women to admire that are like them. Women they can aspire to be. 

As a child I wanted to be different. I was probably the only bright skin at my elementary school with cornrows and beads. When it came to my hair I wanted to be out of the box. I could care less if no one understood why. This is the confidence I am building with my daughter. I tell her she's beautiful even if her hair is smashed to one side. I tell her she's beautiful even if nothing she's wearing matches. My prayer is that as she continues to deal with negative commentators she can fend for herself without feeling broken in the process. I am proud to say she has begun to defend herself and put others in their own lane.

Now, although we shouldn't live for others, just know there is always a grander scheme to things. Deciding to camouflage your true identity with expectations required of you with something as minute as your hair may do more harm than good in the long run.  If you're rocking the boat about what to do... really think about the look you are going for. The image you want to portray. Consider your position. In everything you do, you matter. Your opinions are valuable. Your contributions to the generations to come should be of truth and loyalty. Be real with yourself. Embrace all that you are, every kink, knot and curl. 

SheMarie



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